I actually don't think you understand perfectly what I'm saying, because I never said they should pity their ruler, but rather am trying to make the point that shortly, the politics at the time would have been smoothed over (the British, in fact, did not end up needing a standing army; the French didn't go into a bloody revenge war after their revolution). The conditions the British Empire was conferring upon the Americans were a necessary measure at the time, and had the Americans been patient, living conditions would have improved, not to mention many lives spared.
Also, your premise of the British king not being able to make excuses just because of the politics at the time? These were the current-day issues of the Empire, of which America was a part. Not being informed about the current situation enough to make an intelligent decision is not performing one's duty as a citizen of the British Empire, and making war based off a lack of information is an even more serious offense.
But the Americans did know what was going on. Americans fought in the French and Indian war (Seven Years War), and were aware of the financial strain on the Empire, just like Hawaii knows fully well that economic conditions might be less than ideal now, but that they will improve as soon as we stop fighting three wars at once.
Sure, the British troops stopped being stationed in America after the war ended. But was it worth fighting over? My answer is no.
And the analogy isn't that bad.
I notice that while you criticize me for using the same points repeatedly, you do nothing to change your attacks on my position. My defense doesn't change for that reason.